TWO HISTORICAL FIRSTS IN ONE MONTH- PART 11

From the Archives. Pope Paul V1 being welcomed to Uganda by President Milton Obote of Uganda.

The second of the first historical events of July 1969 happened in my small country, Uganda, now known as the Land of the African Martyrs among the Christian faithful.

Exactly eleven days after Neil Armstrong and Buzz Aldrin had walked on the moon, His Holiness Pope Paul V1, the 262 successor of St. Peter, visited an African country for the first time in the history of the Catholic Church! Available information online indicate that the Pope’s decision to visit Uganda, a country with poor infrastructure, had met some resistance in the Vatican. But it was the same Pope who had canonized the 22 Ugandan martyrs on the 18th October 1964. They had been beatified by the Catholic Church in 1920. These young men were pages in the royal court and were between 15 and 30 years of age.

They were burned alive in pyres under the orders of the then king of Buganda, Mwanga 11, for not denouncing their faith between 31st January 1885 and 27th January 1887. A simple structure was constructed at this site by an individual but then later the current Namugongo Martyrs’ Shrine was started in 1967 under the supervision of the late Cardinal Emmanuel Nsubuga and was completed in 1975.

I grew up hearing people talk of an impossible situation as : “It cannot happen even if you called the Pope”. Simply translated it meant that it was as unlikely to happen as the Pope’s visit.

On the 31st July, this phrase was dropped out of the language.

I am a Protestant but my mother is a staunch Catholic, a student of Mother Kevin, the Irish Nun of the Franciscan Sisters for Africa, who founded Uganda’s most prestigious all-girl boarding school , Mount Saint Mary’s College Namagunga  in 1942.

My father had invitation cards to attend the functions at Lubaga Cathederal and Mulago hospital while my mother preferred to attend the Mass at the Martyrs Shrine in Namugongo. Later she was in attendance at the Vatican when Pope  John Paul 11 beatified  two other Ugandan Martyrs: Daudi Okello and Jildo Irwa from Paimol in Northerthern Uganda on 20th October 2002.

Fearing the crowds, I chose to watch it all on the black and white TV at home. Ugandans of all faiths worked harmoniously together to make this historical visit of the Pope successful and memorable. The excitement was palpable in the air; welcome songs were composed and played on the radio and TV. Special stamps and coins were released to mark the occasion along with souvenirs of the Papal flags, Pope’s badges, Pope’s ties, scarves and umbrellas, mugs and trays. A special material to make shirts and traditional wear were made for the occasion.

Once again, my siblings and I were glued on the TV. Around 3:00 pm, an East African Airways Super VC10 landed at Entebbe International Airport. By then cheering crowds were assembled waving both small Ugandan and Papal flags.

When the door was opened, the Pope’s representative in Uganda entered the plane only to come out with the Holy Father dressed in a white cassock over which he wore an elbow-length red shoulder cape. He wore a beige skull cap. The Pope paused and waved to the cheering crowd then walked down the gangway . He knelt down and kissed the ground at 3:13pm then stood up to be received by President Milton Obote and his wife Miria.

President Obote introduced the Pope to four other African leaders- Julius Nyerere of Tanzania, Kenneth Kaunda of Zambia Gregory Kayibanda of Rwanda and Michel Micombero of Burundi as the crowd cheered and waved excitedly. He received a 21 gun salute as the sovereign of the Vatican City State. He was entertained by groups of young dancers from several districts of Uganda. The crowd was delirious with joy, many of them cried tears of joy. The Pope began his crowded agenda immediately.

He drove in an open Lincoln car along the 32 kilometre journey from Entebbe to the Lubaga Cathedral, the nucleus of the three million Catholics of Uganda. The whole stretch of the road was lined with ecstatic crowds.

 Crowds thronged the main road to the Cathedral which was also decorated with welcoming arches made of reeds and traditional bark cloth. They sang, drummed, danced and ululated as the Pope passed by. At the cathedral, the Pope was welcomed by Cardinal  Laurean Rugambwa of Dar es Salaam Archdiocese and also the first African cardinal of the Roman Catholic Church.

The Lubaga cathedral was packed to capacity, the Pope was introduced to the African Bishops and cardinals. He officially closed the episcopical conference of Africa and later he was hosted to a state dinner at the Nakasero State lodge by President Obote.

The following day, the 1st of August, I watched the open Mass celebrated at the Kololo Airstrip in Kampala. The Pope consecrated 12 new African Bishops ,5 of whom were from Uganda. Others came from Kenya, Zambia, Nigeria, Cameroon, Burkina Faso. Fifty Bishops and more than a hundred priests assisted in giving Holy Communion to the masses. In the afternoon , he attended a special session of the Ugandan Parliament and thrilled the invited guests by expressing words of acknowledgement in Luganda, one of the local dialects.

Day 3, Sunday August 2, was the climax of the Pope’s visit. He visited and dedicated the Namugongo Martyrs Shrine, the place where the fearless, young Ugandan martyrs were burnt to death. He first visited the Anglican martyrs site in recognition of the 23 Protestant young men burnt by the Kabaka’s chief executioner, Mukajanga.

At 9:30 he was at the Catholic Martyrs Shrine to lay the foundation stone for a mini –Basilica to commemorate the 22 martyrs burnt at the site. The place was jam-packed with people who wanted to see and touch the Pope at any given opportunity. The Pope kissed the ground where St Charles Lwanga was burnt and consecrated the alter of the shrine. He celebrated Mass assisted by the African Bishops and priests. He baptized 22 young ones and confirmed 22 young men in remembrance of the 22 Catholic Martyrs.

For us the Ugandans, the visit of the Pope was a sign of great hope; something good had come out of the blood that was shed by the young martyrs. The Christian Church had continued to grow after their death and their courage continues to inspire many people worldwide.

By the end of the day, the Pope had officially donated twenty thousand US dollars towards the completion of the Namugongo Catholic Martyrs Shrine.

He left Uganda on the 2nd August close to 7:00pm after what surprised many as a well organized, historical and memorable visit.

The skeptical few at the Vatican had been surprised and won over by the African faith and hospitality!

For the faithful in Uganda, the visit deepened their spirituality and many of them found their way back into the church. It still has a deep and long-lasting effect on the senior citizens of today.

This was a first for the Vatican, Uganda, Africa and the Pope himself and remained his only visit to Africa in his 15 years of reign at the Vatican.

Since then we have welcomed two other reigning Popes. We have deleted completely that local saying: “It will never happen even if you called the Pope.”

No doubt, organizing the first Papal visit to Africa was a huge challenge to Uganda but it gave us the great opportunity to learn how to prepare for such historical visits. Each visit became a better hands-on experience.

Pope John Paul 11 visited us after the invitation of the late Cardinal Emmanuel Nsubuga from 5th – 10th February 1993.

Pope Francis, the smiling Pope, visited Uganda from 27th November to 29th 2015. I was in economic exile in Botswana but out of habit, I watched it all on the television.

The Popes make a pilgrimage to the land of the African Martyrs to touch and see the physical manifestations of our faith in the recent past and at the present time and to connect personally with the saints.

What Indra Ghandi once said, rings so true: “Martyrdom does not end something, it is only a beginning.”

Having two historical firsts in one month has not repeated itself in my life so far. I am thankful that the two events did not run against each other but instead deepened my marvel at the wonders of God’s creation.

 QUESTION:

Have you ever made a pilgrimage to a holy place? How did it impact your spiritual progress?

TWO HITORICAL FIRSTS IN ONE MONTH

Man’s first footprint on the Moon

 I have been around for a while and have a mountain of good things to talk about. Fifty years ago, when I was a vibrant teenager; full of hope and dreams, two unforgettable firsts happened in one month! They left me mesmerized in the wonder of God’s creation. Unexpected as they were, I had no words in either my indigenous language or English language to describe them. Looking back now, the two events left me filled with respect and admiration for humankind and they boosted my energy and hope that I could in my small way achieve what I wanted in life for my own good and for the good of others.

The year was 1969 in the month of July. The first once-in- a- lifetime event happened on the 20th July, when the Eagle Module of NASA’s Apollo 11 spacecraft landed on the Moon! The historic moment was being watched live by over 660 million people. 

Six hours and thirty nine minutes after landing, 38-year old Neil Armstrong(1930-2012) climbed down the ladder of Eagle to walk on the Moon. Nineteen minutes later, he was followed  by Buzz Aldrin while astronaut Michael Collins piloted the Command Module Columbia above them. Armstrong and Aldrin were the first men to set foot on the Moon! I remember it vividly as if it happened only recently and thanks to the Internet; from the Archives Teaching Resource, I have been able to fill in almost all the missing pieces and enjoy the event much more. It was perfect timing for me; I was on holiday at home so my parents and siblings were that evening glued on the black and white television set. We were all seated on the edges of the chairs watching the spectacle unravel as if all our lives depended on it! An awkward silence followed but then as if on cue, we all stood up, cheered and ulululated.

I remember Neil Armstrong’s famous words as he took the first step on the dusty Moon surface: “ This is one small step for man, but one giant leap for mankind.’’

Closing my eyes, I can see both Neil Armstrong and Buzz Aldrin in their white, multi-layered, flexible spacesuits, space goggles and a backpack containing each one’s life support system. They had gone on to plant the American flag in the surface.

President Richard Nixon ‘s message to them said it all: “ Because of what you have done, the heavens have become part of man’s world.’’

Now I know and understand that for centuries, man had wanted to step on the moon. The Moon race was in earnest by 1957. The unmanned Luna 2 mission of the Soviet Union was the first unmanned spacecraft to reach the Moon’s surface successfully on September 13, 1959. The Soviet Union launched the unmanned Luna 15 on 13 July, 1969 to land on the Moon’s surface and collect the lunar rock and dust. It crash landed on it on the 21st July just a few hours after Armstrong , Aldrin and Collins had landed on the Moon but before their lift off from it.

The Americans had beaten the Russians to the finishing line of the lunar race. It was never really the end but it was the starting line for the second phase of the study and exploration of the Moon.

The three American astronauts in NASA’s Apollo 11 spacecraft had set off from the Kennedy Space Centre in Florida on the 16th July with one mission: to land safely on the Moon. It took them three days to enter the Lunar Orbit. The Mission was under control of a team of NASA engineers at the Space Centre in Houston, Texas.  Making the historic landing  on 20th July at 9:32 am. EDT, turned the three men into America’s most famous astronauts during NASA’s golden era.

In not more than eight minutes, they collected the first geological samples from the Moon surface- rocks and the fine granular lunar dust. Some samples were collected thirteen centimeters below the Moon surface. Since then more Apollo missions have brought back lunar rocks, core samples, pebbles and dust from the Moon. The Moon rock is currently on display at the National Air and Space Museum in Washington D.C. Scientist claim that every sample brought back from the moon has been contaminated by the Earth’s air and humidity. Strictly adhering to the principle of Astronautical hygiene, Armstrong’s and Aldrin’s spacesuits had to be vacuum-cleaned and the inside of the lunar Module, to ensure that lunar dust and particles were not transferred to the Columbia Command Module, destined to return them to planet Earth. The Columbia Command Module splashed down in the Pacific Ocean on the 24th July 1969.

 The astronauts had spent eight days in space. They were immediately quarantined in the Mobile Quarantine Facility for twenty one days! This was a safety precaution to ensure that planet Earth was not contaminated by lunar germs in case the two astronauts had picked any from the Moon’s surface. NASA considered this as a better-safe-than- sorry operation.

It was indeed a giant step in Air and space exploration and technology!

 Between that Moon landing of July 1969 and 1972, NASA sent five other Apollo Missions to the moon and each planted an American flag at the landing site.The last American Astronauts walked on the Moon surface in December 1972 under the Apollo17 Mission.

Other countries like Japan, China, Israel and India  joined the space exploration activities. Only the United States of America, the Soviet Union and China (December 2013) have succeeded in landing safely on the Moon. China with its great power status  wants to claim its position  as a world power off planet Earth.

India wants to test and prove its advances in science and space technology. On the 22nd July 2019, India’s  ISRO launched in 1969, sent off a spacecraft scheduled to land on the Moon’s south pole by the end of August 2019. It is possible that deposits of water-ice could be hidden at this pole.

South Africa’s study and exploration and utilization of space for peaceful uses began in the 1950s. It launched its national space agency in 2010.

The celebration of the 50 years since man first walked on the Moon has opened a new lunar race for exploration and inspired a whole new generation of astronauts. The Vice President of USA, Mike Pence assured Americans that America was returning to the Moon under NASA’s Artemis Project. America would be sending men back to the Moon by 2024, four years earlier than NASA had targeted.

Indeed, the Moon has become a focus of exploration once again.

For the developing countries like mine, it is a matter of national priorities; our governments have the great task of lifting their people out of poverty, creating economic opportunities, technological empowerment and improve the quality of life for all.

Both the developed countries and the developing ones have the collective responsibility of  improving  Planet earth: the environment itself , the people and animals and plants. The effects of increasing global temperatures affect all of us and so are the effects of pollution and violence. Food insecurity, unemployment especially of the youth, lack of education and government corruption affect our security and well-being.

Now that the Moon race has been set in motion once again, I hope that the Moon and the planets will be harnessed under the Utilitarian ethical principle: with the greatest amount of good for the greatest number and at the same time be protected for the future generations too.

QUESTION:

Where were you when Neil Armstrong first stepped out onto the Moon?

The second historical first of the same month and year will be covered in Part11.

SMILE AND LAUGHTER

The Smiling Emoji

My last post on this blog was about communication, the bedrock of all human relationships and a necessity for survival. Reading around this subject led me into the physical, mental and social benefits of laughter.

We all know that smiling is the beginning of laughter and like laughter, it is contagious. Many times, we have been advised to love simply, laugh often and love deeply. The cliché of “laughter is the best medicine”, could be said to be as old as civilization. I was even reluctant to include it in this post but then I remembered one proverb in King Solomon’s Book of Proverbs: Proverb 17 verse 22 : “Being cheerful keeps you healthy. It is slow death to be gloomy all the time.”

A genuine smile is a facial expression conveying one’s deep feelings. The smile is expressed more with the mouth other than the eyes. The Americans are good at displaying their emotions and to them the smile expresses happiness and respect. The Japanese are not very open with their emotions so in a smile, they focus more on the look in the eyes other than the mouth. The Germans do not show their emotions often so they smile less often. In my country, Uganda, a smile expresses warmth and in my local area, the central region, we can laugh out loud with family and friends until we cry. The over 600 years old royal dynasty of Buganda in Uganda, has always had singers, drummers and comedians at the royal court to entertain people and make them laugh. World-wide, a good belly laugh makes each one of us feel good.

Since 1995, the unfatiguable Dr. Madan  Kataria of Mumbai, India, a country where people laugh until they hurt, has been advocating for laughing for health and happiness. He has become the world’s Laughter Yoga Teacher. He is the founder of the laughter Yoga Clubs in over sixty countries. He arranged for the first World Laughter Day in 1998 to increase awareness about laughter and its health benefits. Since then, the first Sunday in May, people gather in public places just to share laughter.

 Dr. Kataria is popularly known as the “Guru of Giggling”. As a medical doctor, he explains that a good belly laugh expels air from the lungs allowing them to take in more fresh air. The oxygen in the fresh air is made available to the cells in the body to convert biochemical energy from nutrients: sugar, amino acids, fatty acids .This energy is then used by the cells to run the essential cellular activities or processes.

Studies have proved how laughter improves our health and happiness.

  • It improves cardiac health by increasing the blood flow to the heart, lowers the Blood pressure and this reduces the risk of stroke and heart attacks.
  • It reduces the stress hormone levels thus reducing anxiety and stress on the body. Stress and anxiety have adverse effects on the body.
  • It tones the abdominal muscles that are used in a loud laugh.
  • It boosts the body’s immune system. The T-cells, the specialized cells of the immune system are activated by laughter. This improves the body’s resistance to disease and cancer.
  • It triggers the release of the endorphin hormones one of the “feel good/happy chemicals” from the brain. Endorphins improve one’s mood; adding joy and zest to life.

Endorphins are natural pain killers that temporarily relieve chronic pain, leaving you feel better.

The relief of physical tension and stress which leaves your muscles relaxed, goes on for up to 45 minutes after.

Human beings are programmed to be social creatures and laughter has been proved to have some social benefits.

Laughter connects us to other people- it attracts other people to us.

It helps to diffuse difficult situations.

It promotes group bonding.

In intimate relationships, sharing laughter strengthens the relationship and keeps it fresh and lasting.

Over the years, I have learned not to take life so seriously. I laugh at myself and at life itself.

 I make a conscious effort to laugh several times during the day. After a long day I put up my feet and watch Just for Laughs: Gags or a good comedy on the television and by the time it ends, I am enjoying a happy high.

I intentionally spend time with fun-filled, playful people like children and old friends. With such people, I find myself more relaxed, more positive and joyful.

I never forget to find my inner child- I claim the spontaneity and the ability to laugh at ordinary things.

I spend 10-15 minutes in a day, doing something that I love and that makes me laugh; like reading a funny story.

Sometimes I just decide to do something silly like making funny facial expressions in a mirror or mimicking funny voices in my past. In such situations, I focus on having fun.

And in a group I allow myself to be drawn to where the laughter is.

Sometimes all I need to do to make myself laugh is to remember a few funny experiences in my life.

Strangely, as I enjoy a happy high, I find myself admitting that Laughter is the best medicine. It is also free, can be self-administered safely and can also save you time and money at the doctor’s. It adds years to one’s life.

QUOTE:

“Trouble knocked at the door, but hearing laughter, hurried away.” – Benjamin Franklin

Simply find opportunities to have a hearty laugh every day.

QUESTION:

How often do you give yourself permission to play for fun and to laugh out loud every day?

COMMUNICATION

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According to Aristotle, a Greek philosopher of Ancient Greece, human beings are social animals; they naturally seek the companionship of others as part of their well-being. Our ancestors were hunters and gatherers and those who worked together well survived and passed on their genes to the next generation. This explains why each one of us needs to be connected to a family, community and a nation. In these diverse groups we become more creative, diligent and hard working and thrive. Group interaction is to one’s own good and to the group as a whole. Hardwired to be social beings, each one seeks to be accepted in the group, affirmed, approved and acknowledged. It gives a sense of belonging and stirs us up to want to do more, be more and brings out the best in each one of us.

Franklin Roosevelt said: “It goes back to the basic idea of society and of a nation itself that people acting in a group accomplish things which no individual acting alone could even hope to bring about.”

 When you are rejected by the group, you feel inadequate, unlovable, you feel not nurtured, cherished or guided. You grow up yearning to be more perfect and lovable and to be more worthy. You go through life looking for a home.

Like the wild animals, our ancestors first communicated with each other by sounds and movements but as they evolved and the environment changed, they began to communicate their thoughts, ideas and feelings through the spoken word. Language, a form of complex communication, was born out of the need to how best to survive. The language helped them to communicate with each other as they hunted, helped them to depend on others thus giving them a survival advantage. As there were numerous groups of people in different areas , many languages were created and continue to change up to today. We have come a long way from hunting and gathering and yet communication still remains the bedrock of all human relationships as a necessity for survival.

Social interaction is essential for our emotional and mental wellbeing. Any interaction between two or more human beings takes the form of verbal(30-40%) and 60-70% Non-verbal communication. Verbal communication is by means of a spoken language while non-verbal is portrayed by facial expressions, gestures and postures, tone of voice and tactile stimulation such as touch and body movements. We use our five senses during the interaction: 

83% sight, 11% hearing, 3% smell, 2% touch and 1% taste. Children learn early how to communicate by mere observation of the adults around them. Psychological research in social and behavioural sciences has revealed that such non-verbal communication also conveys cultural values as well.

The English naturalist and biologist, Charles Darwin (1809-1882),

 studied the non-verbal communication as early as 1872. He observed that human beings could use facial expressions to express their emotions and attitudes about others.

One quote always reminds me that of all the things I wear, my smile is the most important.

While I was researching and writing the last post entitled: Embracing my Age,

 I read extensively about facial expressions. The common ones well known to all of us are the smile and the tears. Each facial expression communicates the emotion deep down. The movement in the mouth determines the intensity of the smile while the sparkle in the eyes conveys genuine happiness. Many of us bare our teeth in a rage.

The American anthropologist Ray Birdwhistell (1918-1994) who pioneered the study of facial expression, gestures, posture, gait and visible arm and body movements in the late 50s, collectively called them kinesics- the human body language. He estimated that humans could make and recognize around 250,000 cultural-related facial expressions conveying emotions and attitudes. While my children were growing up, they could tell what I required of them by simply interpreting my facial expression. In their cheekiness, they would say that I could ‘beat’ them with my eyes.

Fast Forward, the first SMS was sent from a computer to a phone in UK in December 1992. Since then, text messaging has become the order of the day in this Digital era. They have changed the way the world communicates in the smartphone era.

In the late 1990s, a Japanese telecommunications company created emojis-communicating in pictorial faces and symbols- info graphic. The Western world adopted this form of communication from 2010. Emoji was added as a real word in the Oxford Dictionaries in August 2013.

They have become a permanent fixture in today’s Digital communication. When I first came across it, it  reminded me of Hieroglyphics: the formal writing of pictures and symbols in Ancient Egypt.          

One linguistic professor, Professor Herring called emojis a sort of  pictorial pidgin language- the primitive tongue that emerges out of necessity between two population with no  common language that lacks plural markers and functions exclusively  in the present tense.

  It is a rudimentary language. Emojis are not universal ; different messages can be conveyed by the same image  depending on the culture. Some messages have been lost in the translation only to be clarified by text words.

The smiling Emoji. Can be said to be universal.
Praying hands for the likes of me and ‘Thank You’ for the Japanese
The tears of Joy Emoji, the most popular emoji used on Social Media.

Over time, all languages develop, more words are added and a few may be left out. Emoji as a Digital language will continue to evolve.

We all have our languages of communication, the human body language and now we have added a Digital language that we use online, I would not be surprised if we borrowed the birds’ song and calls to enhance our digital communication. Anything is possible in this technology -driven age.

QUESTION:

Have you ever tried to text a short paragraph without using words, using emoji only? Did the receiver understand your message easily?

EMBRACING MY AGE

This photograph was taken on 24/08/1968
This photograph was taken on 24/08/2018.

Louise Hay once said, “Know that you are at the perfect age. Each year is special and precious, for you shall only live it once. Be comfortable with growing older.”

Last Wednesday, I visited my regular supermarket to stock up on my monthly grocery items. I took longer than usual not because the place was full of shoppers but just because the items I buy are imported from several countries. I spend more time checking the labels on the packaged foods than in buying them. In my commitment to eat healthier foods, I check out the fat content of the milk, yogurts, cheese and the mono-unsaturated fats in the different types of Olive oil on the shelves. I do a lot of walking between the shelves looking for wholegrain bread, brown rice, lentils, fresh tilapia fish, fresh local fruits like pineapples, mangoes, oranges, watermelon and leafy vegetables. For more than three decades, I have focused on eating to be healthy so that I can build and maintain a healthy body, stay energized and get the nutrients I need for proper body function.

 I know very well that if I want to live a good quality of life in old age, I have to engage in physical exercise every day, eat  a well- balanced healthy diet and honour the regular medical checkups  with my doctor. The old adage, “Prevention is better than cure,” holds true today, more so in this digital technology- driven and era of huge scientific advancement. 

World Health Organisation(WHO) defines health as a state of complete physical, mental and social well-being and not merely the absence of disease or infirmity. I have to maintain the enriching relationships that I have established over the years. They form an essential element of my Social Wellbeing.

Later in the day, I was required to send some old photographs to one of my childhood friends to include in the Thanksgiving Service  booklet for her mother. Long before the invention of the Digital camera and the Smartphone, I used to be a keen amateur photographer so I have a big collection of photograph albums. I spent some time scrolling through them,  I was reminded that I had been taking official photographs on my birthday since I was that little sweet sixteen girl! As you have guessed it, I have a catalogue of such photographs. Little wonder then that I got so wrapped up in these photographs that I forgot why I had opened up the albums in the first place. I looked at each photograph carefully as fond memories flooded in. I could see how my face and body had changed over the years. Having taken each photograph on my birthday , I noted that I was relaxed and calm. It turned out that they were all great photographs communicating the joy within. They went from a simple genuine smile to a wide grin, capturing moments of true joy.

The most recent one taken last year in August , showed that the once plump lower face had grown small as the jaw bone grew smaller making the forehead, the nose  become more pronounced. The lips were becoming thinner and a few permanent wrinkles had developed round the corners of the mouth. However, the eyebrows and eyelashes had not yet gone grey and the eyelids were not drooping.

I was thrilled and excited that despite the years, the eyes had remained sparkling , conveying happiness and confidence. The confidence had come with age and endowed me with more beauty!

William Wordsworth said, “The wiser mind mourns less for what age has taken away than what it leaves behind.”

Franz Kafka said that: “Anyone who keeps the ability to see beauty never grows old.”

My experience in the supermarket and now this treasure trove of photographs got me thinking about growing old and other major life changes.

Undoubtedly, change is an integral part of life and therefore inevitable. The world around us is constantly changing though most of us prefer to cling on to the old and familiar. The psychologists tell us that most of us fear change just because we want to have control over the future. We tend to demand for certainty in a world of uncertainty. This is what creates anxiety and stress in us. Dr. Elliot D. Cohen, PhD,  a psychologist and critical thinker advises each one of us to strive to find a comfortable place between  blind fearlessness and cowardice – not being too afraid and  not being afraid enough. It is the only thing that will keep each one of us balanced and relaxed.

For the young ones, they have to be reminded that the present affects their future; today’s choices will create their tomorrows. They need to acquire more knowledge and skills to help them accept responsibility for the choices they make about the future. They still have the power to control their desires, hopes and wishes but have to be reminded that external things like approval of others and guaranteed success are not in their control. Making informed choices will give them some degree of freedom over their future.

As for the likes of us, the senior citizens, we need to keep ourselves busy doing what we love and reading  more to understand the changes going on in our bodies and in the world around us. We have to keep ourselves relevant and useful. We can do this by  using our knowledge, skills and experiences to serve others , to mentor the young and help them to achieve their goals and full potential.

We have to summon the courage to face the uncertainty of the future other than cave in to the fear of uncertainty. According to the psychologists, we can age gracefully by embracing our age then keep moving forward happily and remaining optimistic that we still have a lot to offer to the world.

Embracing the natural process of ageing has its rewards: feeling energetic and youthful internally.

Many times in the past, I have asked myself  why I should  fear what is inevitable instead of accepting death and allowing it to guide me through life  for the rest of my life . When we are still young , we tend to be guided through life by our ambitions, success and achievements.  By middle age, most of us have come to accept our mortality so we start focusing on being good, wise and generous human beings.

 Being led through life by death, has  proved extremely liberating to me; humbled and grateful and endowed with the wisdom and hindsight of old age,  I have been able to live a relatively relaxed , happier and meaningful life. I wake up each morning filled with gratitude and ready to take on the day’s adventure.

Jackie Joyner- Kersee, a 1988 American Olympic  medalist, once said,  “ Age is no barrier. It’s a limitation you put on your mind.”

Sophia Loren’s quote about ageing made me extremely comfortable with growing older. She said, ” There is a fountain of youth : it is your mind, your talents, the creativity you bring to your life and the lives of those you love. When you learn to tap its source, you will truly have defeated age.”

I can’t wait to celebrate my next birthday and to pause for the next official birthday photograph.

Question:  Have you yet embraced who you are?

                     Are you proud of it?

GIVING YOUR BEST

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The onetime Professor and head of the Blue Firm left the ladder leaning against a solid wall for others to climb up.

   Last Sunday , I was among the group of medical doctors who were given the privilege to  join Mr. George Kamya, an Emeritus Professor of Surgery of Makerere University College of Health Sciences ,celebrate his 94 th birthday at his home in Kololo, Kampala.

I had not seen him for more than twenty years but I was amazed at how robust he was. He was full of life , very alert and relaxed. All you needed was to introduce yourself to him and then he would say a word or two indicating that he had recognized and remembered you. Apart from losing the use of his legs, I would say that he has changed very little in the time I have been away. He felt comfortable with his wife of many years seated beside him. It was a real celebration of his long, rich life. A worship service followed by a few speeches and the traditional African lunch of plantains, millet, rice ,chapatti, sweet potatoes, sweet plantains, yams served with beef and chicken stews, groundnut sauce, a variety of local vegetables and a variety of fresh fruits like pineapples, water melon and mangoes.

The ambient atmosphere reminded me of my teachers, mentors and sponsors .

My favourite author, Kahlil Gibran(1883-1931) , the  Lebanese- American artist, poet and philosopher said: “You give but little when you you give of your posessions. It is when you give of yourself that you truly give.”

This nonagenarian has lived a professional and exemplary ethical life:  many years ago, he had mastered the art of balancing family responsibility and serving his country as a surgeon. He gave a part of himself to all of us who passed through his hands as undergraduates and post graduates. He was a pillar of strength, support and discipline. He intentionally picked those with great potential and encouraged them  and showed them how to become  noble surgeons. He invested in them and they responded because they wanted to be like him and  to make a difference in their communities.

  Among the crop was my late husband, the first Ugandan woman surgeon, Dr Speciosa Wandira Kazibwe. She later went on to become Uganda’s first woman Vice President( 1994-2003). For over fifty years, he left fingerprints on those he worked with and indelible footprints where he passed for others to follow and create their own stories.

  The Association of Surgeons of Uganda is a vibrant one where women are visible as general surgeons , neurosurgeons, urologists, plastic surgeons and pediatric surgeons. Its members are also active members of  COSECSA- the College of Surgeons of East and Central and Southern Africa.

Jim Rohn (1930-2009) an American entrepreneur and author said: ” All good men and women must take responsibility to create legacies that will take the next generation to a level we could only imagine.”

And Shannon L. Alder , an inspirational author said: “ Carve your names on hearts, not tombstones. A legacy is etched into the minds of others and the stories they share about you.”

Most of us remember how he created his own brand, success and managed and protected it on what came to be known as his ward up to today: ward 2A, the Blue firm ,of the New Mulago Teaching Hospital .

He always acted with honour and truthfulness and his patients always came first. He paid strict attention to detail and time. He was positive, had strong self-esteem, was patient with himself and others  and kept learning. He stood up for his values and spoke against unethical behavior. He lived his values in relationships with  the co-workers and patients. He created his life out of the truth of his soul and what he was taught by his parents, teachers and life itself.

He helped to create a culture of teamwork, inclusiveness and reward and recognition for great performance. Each member felt a sense of belonging to something bigger than herself/himself, worked with integrity and was empowered to explore. Things ran like clock –work whether the seniors were present or not. Responsibility and accountability were their badges of honour.

He retired officially in 2000 but those he mentored have been able to lead and carry on his work with enthusiasm.

Over the years, as I interacted with him, I came to respect and admire him for his wealth of knowledge, skills, experiences and his passion to share it with the young generation but more for his humility and easy demeanor. No task was either too big or too small for him to perform. He performed them all with a smile.

The psychologists always help us to understand why human beings think, feel and behave as they do .As soon as this seasoned surgeon came to know who he truly was, he became secure in it to become a professional of the world while at the same time opening himself up to learn from others. He knew who he was and appreciated that he was a human being who had strengths and flaws. He learned to tolerate others , lifted the weak up while pushing the strong ones  higher up the ladder of success. He left the ladder leaning against a solid wall for others to climb up as he did.

I pray he lives for more years to take the credit for all those whom he has created through mentoring, sponsoring along with his own family. His legacy lives on through them.

 All in all, I was glad I had been part of the celebration of  a man who did the best he could with what he had  and became all that he could be. Amazingly, he never stopped at creating himself, he helped others create themselves too. As they say, what you gladly give away comes back to you multiplied many times over.

Writing this post has challenged me whether I know for sure that each day I live, I am writing my own legacy and on how I have been able to empower others to succeed.

QUESTION:

After creating your own life , how have you facilitated the young generation to create their own lives too?

THE POWER OF THE COLLECTIVE

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Each one of us is born as an individual and dies as an individual. In between these two stages, one has to live effectively and leave the world a better place than he/she found it. None of us can produce her/his best work alone; you need others to teach you, mentor you, and sponsor you and friends to encourage you. Many old age adages, proverbs and quotations attest to this. Among them are:

Two heads are better than one.

Iron sharpens iron.

None of us is as smart as all of us. By Kenwood Blanchard

John Donne’s poem: No man is an island,

Entire of itself,

Every man is a piece of the continent,

A part of the main………………

One local proverb loosely translated says: You need a functional set of teeth to chew the meat.

Former President Barack Obama’s 2008 campaign slogan: Yes we can.

Even the members of a cabinet in a democratic country bear collective responsibility for decisions made in the cabinet.

In this Digital era, where the internet has become an integral part of our lives, one needs to check out and belong to at least two groups of like-minded people working towards a common goal. You may call it a Tribe or a Community but your combined efforts motivate and energise  your Community to participate fully and create change in Society.

Henry Ford once said,“Coming together is a beginning, keeping together is progress and working together is success.”

My late father always advised me to belong to something bigger than myself if I were to realize my full potential. It was not until many years later that I understood what he had meant: It all had to do with synergy-The creation of a whole that is greater than the simple sum of its parts.

Now it is absolutely clear to me after reading Ash Hoehn’s They told me there is no “I” in the Team .

He says that when he became the team the team became him. The team absorbs “I”………

When the “I” is absorbed then he becomes part of something much more powerful.

 This also reminded me that in any chain link fencing, I can be as strong as the strongest and as weak as the weakest.

In a Kindergarten, children are taught to hold hands and stick together in preparation for how they will later live their lives.

In the wild, a pack of the African Wild dogs also known as the Cape dogs, are the best examples of team work or joint efforts.  A pack of twenty of them or more lives together, hunts together, eats together. They are very good communicators and among the most efficient hunters.Little wonder then that they always flourish wherever they are.

I have been around for a while and the best example of team work that comes to my mind is the organization of the Cooperative movement in my home country, Uganda.By the late 60’s this movement was at its peak and most farmers belonged to a cooperative society in their district. They grew cash crops like coffee and bought it, sold it together and bargained together with the government of the day for best price possible.

These farmers grew very rich; sent their children to the best schools in the country and some of them to universities abroad, built modern homes and bought lorries to transport the coffee and personal family cars. Farmers have never been that rich.It was all the result of the power of collective action. Later, during the 1979 Liberation War, the Wakombozi of the Tanzanian Defence Forces mistook many of those big houses for government offices where soldiers of the then Uganda Army (enemy of the people) could be hiding. Many such houses were bombed for this reason.

Who can forget the thousands of women textile workers of the Russian Empire who organized marches that ended in the overthrow of the Tsar in March 1917? They spearheaded the 1917 Revolution!

And in today’s well connected world, the youths of France organized through the Social Media, developed increased political interest. They engaged in the general election of May 2017 and ended up changing the political landscape. Later in June, the youths of Britain actively participated in the general election causing a huge upset in the results.

In December 2018, the military government of Sudan cut subsidies on basic goods like bread and fuel. The Middle-class professionals – doctors, health workers and lawyers, got together under their umbrella organisation, The Sudanese Professional Association(SPA) and organized demonstrations that culminated in the overthrow of President Omar al- Bashir on the 11th April 2019.Since then, they are struggling to work  towards forming a civilian –led transition government.

 It won’t be surprising to us if similar events occurred in other countries.

Today, worldwide, we have many challenges like extreme climatic changes, deforestation, youth unemployment and Substance Abuse, the best way we can develop locally appropriate solutions which we can own is by working together like the Cape wild dogs.

The Kenyans have a proverb that says: Sticks in a bundle are unbreakable.

Working together, we can help to build and improve our communities.

QUESTION:

Are you a member of any like-minded group of people striving to give back to the community and aiming at leaving the community better than they found it?